4 Rules to Rise Successful Kids Suggested by 70 Parents

Parents want their kids to stay out of trouble, do well in school, and go on to do awesome things as adults. And while there isn’t a set recipe for raising successful children, psychologists have pointed to several factors that predict success. While it takes a range of practices and techniques to raise a child well-equipped for adulthood, some themes run throughout these tips: spending time with your child, letting your child make decisions, and maintaining a happy family.

Success can mean different things to different people. In general, it refers to realizing success and getting positive results. The success of a person depends on many factors. Yet, research suggests that successful people’s early childhoods share several common characteristics. 

Recently book with the name  “Raising an Entrepreneur,” comprised research on parents to rise kids successfully and explain the following 4 hard rules.

Make your Kid’s Independence

Too much parental direction can frustrate a child or lead them to lose focus on a task, according to a 2021 study led by Stanford University professor Jelena Obradović. The research looked at children who were cleaning, playing, or discussing a problem. Children with parents who stepped in to provide instructions frequently displayed more difficulty regulating their emotions later, the researchers wrote. The study suggests parents should take a step back in letting their children figure out how to play, clean, or solve a problem. 

In an interview with the mother of 2 very successful sisters, Susan, Google’s first marketing manager,  Anne co-founded 23andMe, a genomics and biotech company. She said that we give extreme confidence and independence to foil the hindrance and resolve their issues and make decisions on their own. “I gave my children the opportunity to be very independent early on,” Esther told me. “I had three children in four years, and no help, so I put them to work out of necessity.”

Tend To Teach Their kids Social Skills

Researchers from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University tracked more than 700 children from across the US between kindergarten and age 25 and found a significant correlation between their social skills as kindergartners and their success as adults two decades later. “This study shows that helping children develop social and emotional skills is one of the most important things we can do to prepare them for a healthy future,” said Kristin Schubert, program director at the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, which funded the research, in a release.

Scott Harrison CEO of Charity: water an organization that help to build the well and other water sources to provide clean water to peoples, this foundation did more than 60,000 water projects in 29 developing countries to help more than 12 million peoples. his mother said in an interview that she developed a sense of help in her child at a very early age. According to her, Scott started helping others in his school age by giving his old things like clothes, books and others.

Welcome failure early and often

Children are motivated to strive toward goals they can achieve. It takes effort to sustain motivation, but success must be possible. A task becomes uninteresting to the child when it is too easy, but also when it is too challenging to accomplish. Offer kids challenges within their current capabilities and provide them with prompt feedback so they can keep improving their performance.

Nia Batts co-founded Detroit Blows and told me that at a very early age she know how to face the failures and try to gain success. “My mom was a trial attorney. Most of the time she won, sometimes she lost,” Nia said. “I remember my dad often asking me, ‘What did you fail at today?’ He asked me when I was young and he was driving me to or from school; he asked me when I was in college, and he asked me more frequently when I started to work.”

To help kids develop intrinsic motivation, share your values in why learning is important. Going to school and learning shouldn’t be just about getting A’s. It’s about acquiring knowledge and growing as a person.

Let Them Discover Their Paths

According to mental health counselor Laura JJ Dessauer, not letting your child make decisions can turn them into codependent adults. Making every decision for a child, including the clothes they wear, exactly when they do their homework, and who they can play with, can eliminate their desire to make decisions, Dessauer writes in Psychology Today. “As they grow older they are likely to seek out relationships in which someone else has all the power and control,” Dessauer said.

Kenneth Ginsburg, author of “Building Resilience in Children and Teens,” offers this advice: “Getting out of the way is a challenge. We want to help, fix and guide kids. But we have to remind ourselves that when we let them figure things out for themselves, we communicate this: ‘I think you are competent and wise.’”

Being parents we should give kids space to choose what is good for them, it is only the way to inject the entrepreneurs qualities in kids. Additionaly as parents we must study the habits and passion of our kids and notice that what make them happy. Let them opt toys and cloths and others thing and Tell them how proud you are of them for succeeding in their chosen path. And then tell them again and again, until you’re sure they believe it.